Persistence and Determination 


I am so proud of this girl. She had a goal to achieve 100 AR points by the end of the school year and she accomplished it early. She’s gotten straight A’s so far. She never gives up no matter how challenging it may get. I couldn’t say enough about her persistence and determination. I know when she grows up that she will accomplish anything in life she wants. 

We are all capable of doing anything we set our minds to. We write our own stories. 

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More Than a Job

I read this quote this morning and it really made me think.

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” –Steve Jobs

I feel that work should be more than just a job. It should be something we look forward each day and love doing. Steve Jobs is right. Work does fill a huge part of our lives. I know I started working when I was 16 years old. Retirement is supposedly 65 years old, but I hear many people don’t retire until they’re almost 70. If it’s going to be a while before I retire, I want to be doing something I love. I don’t want to be miserable for decades. I’m sure no one else wants to be miserable either.

I get we need to provide for our family. It’s true. We may have to struggle in the beginning because we have to put food on the table and the job we have is not the greatest. However, if we start working towards a goal and breaking down the steps we need to take to reach that goal. I believe anyone can have the job they love and live the life they want. Anything is possible.

I remember watching this video and someone made this comment about working for free as long as you love the job. It makes a lot of sense to me. If you love what you’re doing everything should fall into place. There are plenty of quotes about rather doing something you love and make no money than make tons of money and be unhappy. I think doing something you love that you can be creative in a way to generate the income needed to provide for your family. In the beginning, it probably won’t be easy, but it will take patience to accomplish what you dreamt of.

Business owners don’t become rich overnight. They probably had more expenses than income in the beginning years. However, if they loved what they are doing then they would be able to do what’s necessary to build the business to what they intended. BAM! They are living their dreams.

Let’s take time for ourselves to figure out what we really want in life and do what we really love.

The Day I Almost Lost My Leg

Now you’ve heard how I almost didn’t come into this world. Growing up was not easy. My mother reminded me of this story of how God gave me arms and legs and that if I ever did anything bad. He can easily take them away. I was just a kid and trying to comprehend what my mother was telling me. I was not scared about what my mother was saying until the day I almost lost my leg.

My mother, baby brother, and I decided to go grocery shopping on this day. My family was quit poor when I was younger. We only had one vehicle and my father was at work. My mother put my baby brother in the stroller and we decided to walk to the grocery store. It was probably about a 5 mile walk one way.

I was 5 years old at the time. My mother kept yelling at me to stay close while I was skipping along the sidewalk. She had to push my brother in the stroller and couldn’t hang onto me at the same time. We finally make it to the crosswalk where the grocery store was on the other side.

When I saw the walking person light up, I skipped along the crosswalk to get to the other side. Before I make it all the way across, I heard my mother yell “Vi!!!!!” I quickly turned around and ran back to her.

Next thing I remember, I wake up seeing this huge tire above me. Then, I instantly felt this excruciating pain on my left leg. I couldn’t help, but to cry. I heard the sirens going off and the sound got closer and closer to me.

Soon, I felt hands picking me up and putting me on the gurney to load me into the ambulance. I remember my mother being by my side and telling me to stop crying. I’m lying there thinking I am in so much pain, how can I stop crying. I tried hard to calm down to show my mother I was strong, but then the paramedics stuck the IV needle in me and I started crying some more. They also drew some blood. Probably to check my blood type in case I needed a blood transfusion.

I finally make it to the hospital and pretty sure they gave me a bunch of pain meds. My mother was by my bedside while the nurses were cutting my clothes to put me in the hospital gown. They were very nice and they were trying to help distract me from not looking down at my leg.

I was told I had a broken left leg and surgery needed to be done. The surgeon had already been paged to arrive to the hospital to complete an emergency surgery on me. However, something kept him and he was delayed. The nurse told my mother if he doesn’t arrive soon, that they would have to amputate my left leg due to the swelling and the blood being trapped with nowhere to go.

My mother panic and started praying. She told me to pray as well. My mother reminded me God gave me my legs and I needed to pray that I can keep my leg. I was scared to lose my leg. I was only 5 years old. I had a difficult time understanding why they would have to amputate my leg if the surgeon didn’t make it in time.

Luckily the surgeon did make it to the hospital in time to perform the surgery on me. The nurses prepped me up and took me to the OR. I remember them trying to put the mask on my face, but I could not stand the smell. It was making me nauseous. The nurse said she I needed to breathe in the gas to help me sleep. She said she would hold it above my face instead of putting on my face. They asked me to count and eventually I passed out.

I wake up to something in my mouth and I started panicking. I remember my mother telling me to breathe. I was so confused why there was something in my mouth and I needed to breathe. She kept saying, I need you to breathe so we know you’re going to be okay. Then I realized, I did have trouble breathing, but I did what my mother asked. I used every bit of strength left to do what my mother needed me to do.

The next thing I noticed was my left leg was in a cast hanging up. The doctor informed my mother that I had broken 2 bones on my left leg and he had to perform surgery and had to cut into both sides of my leg. He explained there will be scarring and I would be in the hospital for a little while before I could go home.

I finally hear the story of what happened and how I ended up with a broken left leg. As I was crossing the crosswalk, my mother said a UPS truck was coming towards me so she yelled at me to come back. We don’t remember if he ran a red light, but I’m assuming that’s what happened. She said she watched me get hit by the UPS truck and my body flew across the road. She thought I had died at the very moment. Mother said she prayed and she would give me up to the Lord if I indeed had died.

I survived this accident. My mother reminds me that God saved my life twice. He was there when I was born and He saved me again when I was in that accident. This is just the beginning; more stories to tell about my near death experiences.

I Almost Didn’t Exist

Let’s start from the very beginning. My mother was pregnant with me and received terrible news during one of her OBGYN appointments. My parents were informed that I was going to be born disabled. I had not developed arms or legs. The doctor informed my parents that I will be 24/7 care and it will be difficult. The doctor gave my parents options to have an abortion or to continue the pregnancy.

My parents come from a strict traditional Catholic Vietnamese family. My father wanted to have the abortion, but my mother was against it. My family had this idea that the child is punished for the father’s sins. My father felt pressured by his family to take action regarding this pregnancy.

My mom was a strong believer and knew God’s plan is perfect regardless of this circumstance. She prayed daily and trusted in God. This decision pushed my parents apart. My father did not want anything to do with the pregnancy and had a difficult time accepting a disabled child.

The day I was born, my father was not there. My aunt was there with my mom when I was delivered.  My mother was in labor for over 24 hours and spent over 5 hours pushing. My mother claimed she didn’t know how to push correctly that finally the doctor had to use a tool to pull me out while she pushed. As I was delivered, my aunt started crying and telling my mom “she has arms and she also has legs. She has everything.”

My mother broke into tears that I came out just fine. There was nothing wrong with me except for some scratch marks from the tool that pulled me out. She believed in God and believed it was a test for her.

She had a choice and she made the hard decision. She decided to keep me regardless what she was told and a miracle happened when I was born. She told me this story when I was very young and reminds me quite often while I was growing up. My mother truly believed that as I was being born that God molded my arms and my legs at that very moment because all the sonogram showed I didn’t have arms or legs.

Of course, when I was younger I didn’t know what to believe. I questioned whether this was true or not. I asked my father and he just said yeah it’s true, but never wanted to talk more about it. Maybe he was ashamed or felt guilty that I almost didn’t exist. I was never angry with him or judged him for it either. I even asked my aunt to confirm my mother story and sure enough…everything lined up.

In life we have many choices to make and some choices are permanent. I am blessed my mother decided to have faith and to know everything will be okay. I’m a mother now and I cannot imagine not having my children in my life. It’s the greatest gift from God. Miracles do happen if we just have faith.

Meal Prepping

Life gets busy and we find ourselves stressed during the week. Each work day, we get off of work, pick up the kids, come home to make dinner, and get the kids to bed. It’s a lot of work. Sometimes we find ourselves not getting quality time with each other. It can be very challenging.

My family and I decided to start meal prepping for the week. Yes, it is a lot of work for one day, but it frees up at least an hour each day of the week. We get more time together and we are eating healthier. We hardly eat out and it’s a great way to save money too.

If you are concern about food going bad, you can always freeze it. I froze half of the breakfast items so it can last us awhile. Dinner wise, we make extra so that we can have leftovers for lunch. I find it very beneficial to meal prep.

There are plenty of recipes online and you pick out the ones you want to make. Write down all the ingredients you need and pick them up at the store. Oh, if you have never use the Kroger pick up, it’s very time saving. They pick out all the items you need and deliver it to your car. All you need is a card to swipe and you’re all set.

I’m all about time management and making things simpler for my family. Life goes way too fast and if I can slow it down, I will. I like having more time for my family and reduced stress.

Health Insurance & Medical Bills

Health insurance is supposed to help with medical needs. Well, it doesn’t seem like it to me. I’m sure many of you understand where I’m coming from.

I took my son to his 2 year old wellness checkup. They had to do blood work to test his lead level and to check his allergies. Well, weeks later I see on my insurance claims saying I owed about $300 in doctor fees. I read the claim and it was billed for 7 different services. Seven services??? What the heck?!

Well visits are supposedly covered at 100%, but I guess this was not the case. I was billed for the office visit. Then I was bill for the nurse who drew the blood. I was billed for the lab work separately for the lead and allergy testing. His preventative shots were on there as well. The only thing the insurance covered was the preventative shots. I’m like wow. Why even bother having health insurance? What’s the point of having health insurance, if I’m paying all this medical fees out of pocket on top of paying my monthly insurance premiums?

I’m learning my current health insurance plan totally stinks. I’m paying more money to have it and also pay for pretty much all medical services until I’ve met my deductible. Once I meet my deductible, then the insurance will pay 90 and I pay 10. Once I meet the maximum out of pocket then the insurance will pay at 100%. Who spends $6,8000 in medical needs per year??? Honestly, that’s outrageous. I thought I was saving money because it was through my employer. They paid some of the premiums and I paid some of the premiums. I’m really starting to do think that it’s all about making money.

Have anyone heard of Medi-Share? I heard on the Christian radio that it’s a group of Christians coming together to share medical cost. I don’t know much about it, but I’m thinking I might look into it. I’ll let you guys know more once I find out the info and I will provide the info in the resource section.

Love Your Enemies

So, I’m human and I have my days where someone really gets on my nerves. We all have that one person that drives us crazy. No matter how nice you are, or polite, because you want to be the bigger person yet that person still treats you like crap. You don’t want to stoop to their level because that’s not you. It’s not easy being the bigger person. Seriously, though…what happened to the golden rule? Treat others as you want to be treated. Isn’t that easy enough to follow? I have to believe one day karma will come around and bite that person in the butt. For now, I will continue to be me and minimize interaction with this person as possible. If I could, I would have no contact with this person. Unfortunately, that’s not how it always works. On the bright side, treat your enemy with love and maybe that person will change. It’s possible right? I always try to see the good in people because we’re all human and make mistakes.

Blessings in diguise

There are times that are dark and all you’re getting are bad news. One bad thing after another and you’re wondering when is this going to stop. You’re struggling each day hoping for the best. You need to continue your day and stay strong, but all you want to do is burst into tears. You’re sitting here hoping and praying. “Please God, please. Just let one good thing happen. I don’t know if I can handle any worse thing coming this way.” You know how you hear people say all the time “God only gives you what you can handle.” So this is my opinion about that, I’m not saying I’m right about this opinion, but my feelings are; God gives you more than you can handle so that you rely on Him. He gives you more than you can handle to make you stronger. I feel the reason it’s so hard because it is more than we can bear, but there’s that bible verse “through Christ I can do anything.”  In life there are so many challenges, but we grow each time. If life was simple, we wouldn’t appreciate the good times because there were no bad times. I am grateful for all the bad times. It made me a stronger person and a better person. I truly believe it’s a blessing in disguise because we don’t know it’s a blessing until we overcome it.

Car accidents

Car accidents, it occurs daily. For those who’ve been through a car accident, you know where I’m coming from.

I’ve been dealing with a car accident that I was not even involved in. It totally sucks having to deal with insurance and insurance not wanting to pay out a claim especially when it’s the other driver’s fault.

Anyhoo, this accident occurred where this woman turned left while the driver in my vehicle was driving straight. This woman t-bones on the driver’s side of my vehicle. In the police report, she did not have the green arrow and did not have the right away.

I go through all this hassle dealing with the insurance company. I can’t file through mine because I only had liability insurance on it. My car was totaled out last year during the hail storm. However, I kept the car because it was drivable. No senses in having the insurance take my car.

Back to my story, I filed a claim through the other insurance only to find out later the woman had stolen plates on her vehicle which the police did not catch during the accident. The other insurance said they were not going to cover her because the car involved in the accident was not covered through them.

Then, I found out the other driver did not have insurance at all. I’m sitting here thinking, this is so unfair. I wasn’t even involved in this accident and now I’m being punished for this woman’s action.

I went back to the scene of the accident and there’s no way she could have hit my car if she was truly turning left. I decided to google staged car accidents and t-bones popped up as a common one, where a person intentionally hitting another vehicle to get money from the insurance company. I was so frustrated and I informed my car insurance of all this information. My insurance company said it’s hard to prove staged accidents unless the person admits to guilt. Not only this woman got away hitting my vehicle, but she got away with fake plates on her car. She had no consequences for her actions. There was nothing my insurance could do since I didn’t have full coverage on my car.

My car was totaled and I had to salvage it. I barely got anything for it and I also had to pay the tow yard. The reason it was sitting at the tow yard for so long was I thought she had insurance and they would pay out since she was at fault.

I could keep fighting this issue, but I’m so tired and stressed out. I even talked to a lawyer about the accident. The lawyer could file a lawsuit, but it can take up to 2 years for a settlement. Honestly, I don’t want to add any more stress into my life.

I’m not giving up on this crappy situation because I believe in karma. What goes around comes around. I know her day will come and karma will catch up to her. I believe in God and He says venges is for Him to take. Not me. I know God will make it right. As for now, the best I can do is move forward and do what I feel is best for my family. I know doing the right thing on my part; good karma will come my way.

Frustration and Persistent

We all have moments in our lives where we’re frustrated and wondering why am I even doing this. Am I ever going to move up? Am I stuck here? The truth is…we all have to start somewhere. We don’t live in a magical land where everything is perfect and goes according to plan. Even in the fairy tales or Disney movies. All the characters had to go through some sort of obstacle before they reach their happy ending. Even when we reach our happy ending…we still have difficult moments in our lives. It’s the matter of how we handle things and if we’re determine to keep going and keep fighting for what we want. Things don’t come easy and things are not handed to us.

My parents are actually from Vietnam. They came to America without knowing any English and had to start from scratch. I don’t know how we ended up up north, but my dad’s first job was at a pizza place in Chicago. He went to work and my uncle taught him the word “no.” He thought saying “no” would keep him away from trouble. Well, one day his boss asked him if he liked his job and he said no because he didn’t know what his boss had asked him. Well, his boss let him go because my dad answered no not knowing what he was answering to. My dad was devastated cause he was trying to provide for my mother and I was an infant at the time. It was very frustrating for my dad as well. He’s working hard, but the communication barrier cost him his job. Then we moved to Michigan and my dad got a construction job. It was physically demanding and it was hard. He struggled, but he never stopped. He kept going until we got our first house. Then we got a brand new house when I was around 12.

As you can see here in this short little story. My dad had to work hard. His persistent rewarded him with a home and a family. Now he speaks English and is doing well. Not a moment did he stop. He kept pushing forward to take care of his family.

Just know, no matter how frustrated you are and no matter how much you want to give up…Keep going because it’ll be worth all the hard work.